SEX! SEX, SEX, SEX, SEX, SEX!!!!!!!
I thought if I said it more it’d be less weird but it’s not.
I remember when I was about 12ish my parents talked to me about sex. It was INSANELY weird. 1) Because my mom did most of the talking and 2) because a lot of what they were telling me I had already found out from school. That’s not to say that the talk was a total waste. In fact, a lot of what my parents told me set things straight. I heard this and that from various students and then of course there was health class but I never had a clear understanding about it.
Looking back, as awkward as it was I wish my parents had talked to me sooner about it. The reason being that it was already something that was being talked about in school by students a year or two before. The thing is though that my parents didn’t know. They didn’t know how long that had already been a subject of curiosity in my life. And when I say curiosity I don’t mean that I was experimenting or anything like that. But the fact of the matter is that I was hearing words thrown around that I didn’t understand the meaning of.
Another scary thing for me were students who said they were homosexual. That freaked me out like no other. I mean here was this dude who was like the manliest guy I had ever seen and he’s telling me he’s attracted to other men!?
The point I’m trying to make is that I’m 23 years old and it wasn’t that long ago that I was in high school. I think that’s one of the benefits for me in being a youth pastor. I know what’s talked about. I remember the confusion. Lucky for me though I knew I had parents I could go to and talk about this stuff with. Yeah it was awkward for me and probably just as awkward for them but I knew I could go to them.
There’ll come a day when I have to talk to my kids about sex. I’m not going to WANT to but I know I want to. Make sense? I don’t want the first seed on sex to be planted in my kids head by anyone else but me. The big question for me though is at what age do I do that? I was in sixth grade when sex began to be talked about by other students. That was about 13 years ago. At what age will it be talked about by students when my kids are in school?
Something I’ve been telling my students lately and what I want to tell you is that we live in a sex-saturated society. Sex is everywhere. If a kids parent doesn’t want to talk to them about sex then the kid can just go look online. Problem is that they’ll just become even more confused.
Parents MUST talk to their kids and be willing to answer the tough questions. That doesn’t mean the parent has to have all the answers. If you’re a parent and you don’t know the answer tell your kid you’ll get back to them. Your goal should be to guide them in a direction so that when temptation rises in their heads or questions about their sexuality come about they can either make the right choice or come to you.
The bottom line is this: Someone is going to talk to your kids about sex. Who’s it going to be?